Since starting #GIRLBOSS, by Sophia Amoruso, I've begun to look at my life as a college student & fashion blogger in a different way. If you haven't read her book (which I am only 44 pages into, by the way), there is a lot to take away from it. I'm loving it so far and I would suggest it to any girl who really wants to change her life. While I'm reading, I will reflect on my takeaways along the way. Today's topic: not taking "no" for an answer.
Don't succumb to anything. Don't let someone else stand in your way. I've had experience with this and it's aggravating as hell. I went from being in a small high school environment that knew me and supported me, to coming to a great big college and city where I, at times, feel like I'm just a number, similar to a sheep with a tag on it's ear.
Sometimes, this makes me feel like I can't achieve greatness. I've been stressed out trying to keep up with my studies, wondering what it would be like if I went to an easier or smaller college.
I have to regularly remind myself that I'm where I am now (Chicago: away from home, my family, friends, boyfriend...) because I want to have the best education possible, and I want to become the person I see when I close my eyes at night.
In her book, Sophia Amoruso talks briefly about how she approached Jeffery Campbell at a convention to see if he would be interested in having his shoes sold on Nasty Gal. He said no. No? Would you walk away and try pitching to the next designer or try again? So that's what she did: she tried again, and that time, he said yes.
She's successful and she credits this partly to a certain kind of stubbornness. Whenever someone asks me about my negative traits, my mind goes straight to how stubborn I am. Sophia has made me view this trait in a new way, a way that has the potential to make me very successful like her.
Some of you might know that Sophia didn't go to college. In fact, she was pretty troubled as a teen. Although I do believe I should get a college education, there was a time during my senior year that I semi-rejected the idea of institutionalized education. I wanted to be an entrepreneur and have my own boutique, I wanted to travel the world, and I was possibly scared of leaving the bubble that I knew like the back of my hand.
But, I think saying "no" to living in Chicago would have been the wrong choice. I'm not hearing or saying "no" anymore when it comes to my dreams. Because what made all the entrepreneurs, models, singers, actresses, etc. we look up to successful? Conviction. Hard work. Not taking "no" for an answer.
There are so many prime examples of Girl Bosses, along with Sophia Amoruso, that we should look up to. Gigi Hadid, Marina & the Diamonds, Cara Delevingne, Taylor Swift, Chiara Ferragni, Alexa Chung, and so so so many more fabulous women. The work they have invested into their careers is amazing and inspiring.
Someday, I hope to be a woman that makes her mark on the world. I hope this post (and more #GIRLBOSS posts to come) help you discover and follow all of your wildest dreams.